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Moving is hard October 3, 2014

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This might be one of the more un-original titles I’ve ever used, but I thought it should be said… moving is hard.  It’s hard on the people leaving and it’s hard on those left behind.  We’ve done this a few times in our married life, but this time seemed especially poignant in that we had lived in RVA for 13 years – almost four times longer than we’d lived anywhere else.  It’s getting easier (although it will seem far more permanent once the house sells in VA) but there are definitely challenges at each turn of the calendar.

We first moved into temporary housing.  This was an interesting transition because of it’s very nature… it was temporary.  We knew we weren’t going to purchase a home near that residence, so learning the area was helpful but a bit of an effort in futility. Why spend the time getting to know people when our lives most likely wouldn’t intersect in any reasonable or foreseeable fashion after we found the home we wanted to purchase?  The apartment we were assigned was in a nice area, but not as easy to navigate (see my previous post entitled My Little Red Wagon) but we made the best of the entire situation. My 50th birthday came and went… Easter wasn’t celebrated the same… my summer didn’t focus on getting kids to and from activities.  Life was changing and I needed to change with it… and so I did.

free-moving-announcement-front-chocOnce we found the home we wanted to purchase, my focus became a little simpler. My goal now was to find businesses in the new area where I might find things like doctors, hair stylists, shopping, and other amenities that would make our transition successful.  I found a nail salon where I felt comfortable… M helped me find someone to cut my hair (which was getting unruly after 17 weeks)… I had my first eye doctor appointment… and I found a part-time job at a local winery.  All these things helped make our move flow a bit smoother, but the most challenging part is finding friends.

After living in one place for much of my boys’ childhood, I had collected an amazing assortment of people in my life.  There were some who could meet me for lunch, some who could be counted on to help with car pool or share frustrations with kids’ activities, some who knew me from my job at the local winery, some who knew me from church, and still others who simply knew me as someone they saw around town.  No matter where I had found these people, each one held a special place in my heart and in my life.  Thinking about it now, I realize that one of the most important things about these people is that I never, ever, felt alone.  I knew, with confidence, that I had people who lived nearby who would be present for me if I needed something.  That something could be as easy as a smile from the check-out clerk at the local grocery store or as involved as a shoulder to help work through a difficult situation…either way, I had created my very own village within the world around me.  I believe that has been the hardest part of moving… I had to leave my village behind.

Don’t get me wrong… I am very happy with our move.  We have found a place in a small town that is becoming more and more wonderfully familiar as I go about my daily life.  I adore my job at the winery and thoroughly enjoy getting to know our neighbors.  I am starting to create my new village, but it’s going to take some time.  I don’t have any history with people here, so it will be a process of letting people in and learning who to trust.  Making friends will be more of a challenge without the immediate connection of children and their activities, but I have faith that we will come to love this new life of ours.

In the meantime, you can find us at our new address in Forest Hill, Maryland.  You can reach me on most any Social Media outlet (Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, Instagram, Pinterest – most under AliSportShots) or you can follow my wine recipe blog on Facebook (From the Bottom of a Wine Bottle).  I may have moved, but I’ve not gone away.

Moving may be hard, but it would be harder if I wasn’t able to keep in touch with friends.  Thank you to all of you who have made an effort to keep in touch with me throughout this move.  We kept our VA home and (my) cell numbers for that very reason… so people could find us.

Thanks so much for reminding me that friendship doesn’t revolve solely around who lives closest to us… it revolves around who lives in our hearts.  Moving is hard, but true friends make everything better…

 

Never a Dull Moment… especially when sleeping? April 27, 2014

We currently reside in a lovely two-bedroom, fully furnished, corporate apartment in MD while we await the sale of our home in VA.  The company set things up and thought of every possible “basic necessity” that we could need while we’re here, but we have had a little trouble adjusting to the sleeping arrangements that are available.  We have a queen-size bed but, even with all the padding included, it’s just sooo hard.  We’ve tried to adjust and adapt, but after sleeping on a hotel bed this past weekend, we decided that enough was enough and asked for suggestions from our Facebook community.BedDiscussion

The responses ranged from the off-the-cuff-quip “sleep on the floor” or “try drugs and alcohol” to some extremely detailed ideas on specific types of foam pads, thickness preferences, product combinations, and the like that just boggled the mind.  I was so grateful for the response… hearing from so many people really helped us as we left for the store.

Keep in mind, we already have an amazing Sleep Number Bed (currently in storage) that we just love, so we weren’t looking for a long-term solution.  We simply needed to add something to this specific bed that will allow us to sleep more comfortably until we can get our things out of storage and have our own bed back.

We also had some criterion that needed to be met:

  • Whatever we purchased would not end up being used on our personal bed, so we didn’t want to spend a great deal of money.
  • We also needed to be able to purchase a product immediately… waiting for something to be delivered just wasn’t going to cut it at this point.
  • M didn’t like the idea of sleeping on foam, so that cut out a large number of options.
  • I wanted something that would fit under the current mattress pad, so it would have a chance at staying in place.

We could have gone to a number of stores, but we decided that Bed, Bath and Beyond was going to be our best bet at finding a workable solution.  After wandering through the store for awhile to understand the layout of the store, we started looking at our options.  With a goal of “a reasonable price” in mind, we got things down to two possible solutions.  The first was a full four inches shorter than the width of the bed itself, which concerned me, and made of foam, which concerned M.  NOTE: When looking for bedding options, measure the exact size of the bed in question so you have a true number with which to work.  When the second was exactly the correct width and length and a good $100 cheaper than its closest competitor,  number two became our obvious choice.

We then had a minor discussion on the merits of FiberFill vs Feather Bed… I honestly didn’t care enough at this point, so we went with the FiberFill.  I’m not a fan of random things poking at me in the middle of the night (ok, get your minds out of the gutter, folks) so when M preferred the FiberFill, I was absolutely on board.   Using the 20% discount card that I had randomly remembered to pack two weeks ago made this item totally within our budget (click the link on “number two” above to see more info) and we went home with our new acquisition.

After stripping the bed down to the bare mattress, we laid the topper on and covered it with the “original” mattress pad… it was feeling softer already!  We finished making the bed and had our first night’s sleep on it last night.  I think it’s going to take a little time to get used to the softer bed, but I am definitely a fan.  Even if it only lasts a few months, this purchase is already worth it to me.  My back isn’t quite as sore this morning and I actually feel a bit more relaxed.  My FitBit feedback tells me that I had a more restful night, which means that I wasn’t flopping back and forth all night.  Anything that can do that, on the first night, gets high marks in my book.

For those of you who are wondering about our Sleep Number Bed… let me say first that we love it.  We bought ours almost 10 years ago and we wouldn’t trade it (as evidenced by the need for a post such as this) for any other bed.  NOTE: We purchased the middle cost option of the queen sleep number bed and got two wired remotes, one for each side.  The remotes have begun to fail, so we’ll replace them when we move, but the bed itself is awesome.  M likes to sleep on a more firm mattress, so his sleep number is somewhere around 50-65, depending on his nightly preference.  I like to sleep in a “valley”, so my sleep number typically ranges between 35 and 45.  I can adapt to sleeping on a more firm mattress, and probably should be sleeping on something closer to M’s number, but the surface of the apartment’s bed was just way too firm for either of us.

That’s the end of our sleeping saga.  Our move has been accented with bursts of challenge here and there, but hopefully we’ll go back to having more dull moments… as long as our cats don’t get into the act anymore!

 

 

 

 
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